My personal experience with FRIENDS

Friends, they are of many types. So let me tell you the types of friends that i've befriend with, and do tell me if you've encountered one. Friend no 1.

She used to be my room mate back in Labuan. We were so close, my bed was just adjacent to hers, we studied together, we even made code names for the couples in the college, by all means, she's my girlfriend and that was what i am to her, back then.

After the life in kml, we follow the diferrent paths, the paths that have been destined for us. She went to WM to pursue her study, and i'm back to KK, and stay in UMS terchenta. Since that, i havent get a single sms/call from her anymore, and i did sms, just to catch up with her, but so jarang la the sms kena reply. And i, not an emo by nature, move on. In return, i have lots of new friends in uni.

After 4+ years, which is exactly now, i've received her sms-es, asking about my life now etc etc. I am so delighted upon receiving the sms-es, i truly am. Until yesterday, she posted 'something' in her FS shout out, which leaves me nothing but the fishy feeling. So i dig around, and based on the comments in her FS, i get to know that she steals her bestfriend's boyfriend. So by human nature, the bestfriend is so furious hence ended their relationship but she's not the only one. The other friends (aka the bestfriend's supporters), follow the same action and she's all by herself now. I personally think the rampas merampas issue is not my business, so hands off that matter. Either it is true or not, i hope she'll get through. The only thing that makes me wonder is, if her friends still befriended her till now, will she ever care to send me sms/call me? I feel like, a spare part to a cheating boyfriend. Truth hurts. Nevermind. Friend no 2.

They are my long lost friends. The 'long' term is precisely define as 2-3 years. They never sms/call , but one shit day, they sms-ed me and as usual the mukadimah would be 'how are you', where are you now' etc etc, then next would be 'sebenarnya saya ada masalah kewangan bah ni, saya mau pinjam duit, bulan depan baru saya bayar ah'. Very straight and shameless. They have friends over there, and they can simply ask them what, why bother to buang duit sms to me, and ask to spare some $$ for them. Crazy. And i, as they know are so soft hearted but i'm not stupid. You can tell whether i give them the $$ or not. I always believe that once i give them, there'll always be the 2nd time. There's no way i would let it happen.

Friend no 3.

This type hurts me the most. During my 1st year in uni, i am so naive. Every time my coursemates want to copy my notes/ copy my tutorial's answer, i'll give them. And every time the test is about to be conduct, the lecturer will give hints for the questions. At the end of the class, they asked for the hints, which puzzled me 'they did attend the class, but how come they do not take note of that?'. Weird. In short, i never fail to share what i have with them. Until one day, i saw this one particular friend is solving a past year's question which makes me so hairan, how come they didnt even think of sparing 1 copy for me, they know i'd be happy to solve it and share with them. Then i ask, "mana ko dapat ni?" , she said "alah, kami ngam2 sj potostat ni,nti la ko potostat lagi ah". When i asked for the paper the next day, they come up with lots of excuses, as if they dont want me to get one. Shit. It did hurts me. I never try to ask from other coursemates because belum biasa lagi dengan dorang, and i'd be terribly hurt if they give the same lame excuses like my friends did. There were so many occasions lagi prior to that, but this past year's question thingy is the turning point. I blame it all on my naive-ness. How could i think i would get the same thing in return by helping them in the best way i can. From that onwards, i'm trying to think as real as i can. I only mix with them during happy hour time, and pasal notes/tutorials, berusaha la sendiri. They did sense me being so lokek with notes, and i know they did talk at my back and try to pulaukan me. I dont care and i never give a fuss. At least, after 4 years, my cgpa is the highest among the bumiputras in the course. Enough to shut their mouths up. Conclusively, i believe the saying that goes " everything happens for a reason". I never blame them, well actually i did few times . In my clear state of mind, i now thank them for giving me these life lessons, though it came in a tough ways. And i will try my best being a good friend to myself and to others.